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CONTINUATION OF DUPED & LIED TO & CHEATED ON

TRUTH

In my last blog, I gave you a little background information about Jennifer so you could understand her personality and lust for life.  She was not one to be depressed or morose about anything that happened to her.  If she fell down, she would get right back up and start over again. 

This blog will describe my daughter's demeanor and downfall.  This could happen to anyone.  Heterosexual, lesbian, gay, bi-sexual or transgender.  White, Black, Hispanic  - any race.  Female or male.  Adult or child.  THE EFFECTS OF BULLYING ARE HORRIFYING AND ANYONE CAN BE SCARED TO DEATH!! 

This totally normal levelheaded girl let Natalie Bright, Danny Bright and Gail Fagen drive her to the depths of sadness and total desperation.

When Natalie Bright went from shift work on September 7, 2009 to Monday through Friday 8:00am - 5:00pm was when I kept Jennifer's son, Owen Bright Monday through Friday 7:15am -6:30+pm or much later depending on the situation.  This lasted till May, 2010 (9 months of constant care).

Now, Natalie Bright was free every evening to be home with Jennifer and Owen.  Gail Fagen, Natalie Bright's mother, who lives in Des Moines, Iowa was visiting almost every weekend and Natalie Bright's brother, Danny Bright and his husband, Kevin Niekamp were also visiting often and took up a lot of Jennifer and Owen's life.  This situation set the stage for the constant bullying and abuse Jennifer received.  She was verbally abused.  Threatened.  Humiliated at home and at the Olathe Police Department.  She was told she needed to lose weight, pay attention to her skin, that she was not a good mother, and asked to give up her parental rights "because in Natalie Bright's opinion" Jennifer was not fit to be his mother.

It was either feast or famine.  In other words they either double-teamed Jennifer or completely left her alone with Owen.  If she wanted to talk to Natalie Bright, she would have to schedule an appointment (even though they lived in the same house).  Natalie Bright and her family orchestrated the schedule.

Natalie Bright decided she was going to play basketball every Monday night.  So, she did.  They fought about it, but it did no good.  Natalie signed up for continuing sessions of basketball.  Jennifer didn't know everyone on the team, (all women) but it was intimated that Sarah Tackett, Natalie Bright's lover, was indeed on the team. 

Natalie Bright started going out to lunch with unknown people and spending money and really keeping close watch on the bank accounts.  Jennifer didn't know if she had account in her name only.  I don't know if she did to this day or not.

Jennifer went on Facebook to check on a previous girlfriend, Tierre Erickson, who had cancer.  Natalie Bright forbid Jennifer to get on Facebook and made her promise not to use Facebook or any other social media so she could isolate her from other people. 

It was probably the Summer of 2010 when I specifically remember Jennifer trying to get out from under Natalie's thumb.  In June, Natalie Bright wanted to take Owen to Des Moines, Iowa because her family was involved with go-cart or ATV racing.  Jennifer did not want to go, so she told Natalie Bright she didn't feel well.  Jennifer followed Natalie half way to Des Moines so she could make sure Owen Bright was okay and supposedly Gail Fagen, Natalie's mother met her and followed her the rest of the way.

I want to interject here how hard it was to see my daughter being bullied daily and hourly for months.  Jennifer and I talked when she brought Owen to our house and picked him up.  She also called at least once during the day to check on him.  Natalie Bright never called once.  Through Jennifer I was told not to buy Owen certain toys because Natalie was the only person to be able to play certain games with Owen.  This was so totally absurd. 

I asked Jennifer if she wanted me to talk to Natalie Bright to try to find out why she was treating Jennifer so bad.  Jennifer told me that it would only get worse for her if I talked to her.

I don't know if I mentioned earlier in my blogs, but Natalie Bright majored in Psychology and Sociology in college.  She knew how to mentally beat someone down.  Jennifer went to work at the City of Olathe, Kansas Police Department and had to see Sarah Tackett, Natalie Bright's lover everyday and go home every night to a cesspool of criticism and/or complete silence.  Natalie spent a lot of time in her own room (man cave) playing games, downloading songs and mapping out how long Jennifer would last together in the same house.

Anyway, back to June of 2010.  After Jennifer followed Bright half way to Des Moines she came over to our house.   She specifically wanted to sit by our pool and read a new book on "How to parent a 3 year old".  Owen Bright would turn 3 the following February, 2010.  The book was a hardback and fairly thick.  Jennifer read the whole book in a couple of hours.  Natalie Bright called on Jennifer's cell phone while she was here.  She didn't answer instead went to a quiet place on the patio to call her back so Natalie Bright wouldn't know Jennifer was at our house.

Jennifer brought hair color over so I could re-frost her hair.  I was shocked at how her hair felt.  I asked her how long it had been since she had washed it.  She said she didn't remember.  It was then that she told me she didn't have time to brush her teeth, wash her hair or do personal things that we all take for granted.  She was so occupied with taking care of Owen and the house and the job and putting up with her situation, that she forgot about herself.  We talked while I did her hair and I told her she would have to start taking care of herself for Owen's sake.  Her hair turned out really nice and uplifted her spirits some.  She took a shower for a long time while she was here and honestly looked so much better by the day's end.  I asked her what she was going to do when Natalie Bright got home and noticed that Jennifer's hair was done.  Jennifer said she probably wouldn't notice.  Well, Natalie Bright did notice and all hell broke loose.